Thursday, May 30, 2013

Truly Touched

Today I had a different post planned, I was going to show off some really cute new pictures of B and tell you about my first win on a Blog Giveaway. Instead, I'm going to save that post for another day and share with you some really special moments B and I have had the last couple of days. I am truly touched!!

Yesterday, after school B and I went to visit Ava. As soon as I pulled up, I noticed her flowers were missing, everything else was there. . .her angel, her pinwheel, even the canister her flowers were in, was still there. My initial thought was maybe the wind got ahold of them. We walked up to Ava's marker and then I noticed even the styrofoam (that was built in) was missing from the canister. B and I looked around EVERYWHERE for ANY lil piece of Ava's arrangement for me to be comforted that the "wind" and not "someone" took her flowers, I realized it was impossible. It was impossible for the styrofoam and flowers to be "blown out" of the canister.  I was also immediately able to eliminate the groundkeepers from doing anything with them...because 1) everyone else's flowers were still there from the weekend 2) they wouldn't have left her angel and pinwheel, everything would have been cleared out.  I was upset, not mad, just upset. I immediately called J at work to tell him what happened. He couldn't believe it.  I just couldn't believe that someone could look at our lil princess' picture and take her flowers.  Knowing there wasn't anything I could do about it, B and I went home. On our way home, the more I thought about it, the more "mad" I was getting. Since we are new to this, I just wanted to know if this is common, and if it is something else that we need to be aware of.  B and I got home, let Lilly out, then we got right back in the car so I could drive back to the funeral home and ask.

As we pulled up, I could tell a visitation was about to start, so I specifically asked B to be on his best behavior and told him why.  We walked inside and were thankfully greeted by Bryson our favorite funeral home director, the one who directed Ava's service. (I say thankfully because you might remember this post, where I told you about my horrible experience with our other funeral director. I just have to add that they have soo many people working at the funeral home, it really is amazing that Bryson was there in the front lobby. I have never seen him working the front door any other time we have gone.)

I noticed a police officer setting in a chair in the lobby, but I honestly didn't think much of it. I explained to Bryson what had just happened to us and I was just asking him if it was common for flowers to be taken.  Meanwhile, as I was talking, I noticed B waving to the police officer. Bryson was very apologetic and wanted to go double check with the groundskeeper to see if they knew of anything happening to Ava's flowers or if they could think of anything that could have happened to them.  As he left, B asked me why the police officer was there and I told him, I wasn't sure, and it probably wasn't any of our business.  She overheard me and said it was ok to ask, it had been on the news. Then she told us a McKinney police officer (Officer John Libby) was killed in an off duty motorcycle/car accident on Memorial Day.  I felt so horrible and embarrased that I had not seen it on the news!  (I stopped watching the news, after Ava passed away.  Every morning, as we got ready for work/school we always watched Fox 4 News. Well, recently one of the morning co-anchors had a lil baby girl, and I just haven't been able to bring myself to turn the morning news back on.)  The police officer then explained to us that an officer stays with the deceased officer for 24 hours around the clock until the funeral.  Then she told us that Officer Libby was her best friend, so she would be there the next day and Friday watching over him. I was truly touched by that!

I told her I was so sorry to hear of her loss, we were just recently in that same position. I told her about Ava.  She complimented B for being so strong for his mommy. I just LOVE when others naturally see that sweet spirit B has and how well he helps takes care of me. By this time, Bryson came back. Him and I talked as B went to go continue his conversation with the police officer.  Basically the only conclusion the groundskeeper could come up with was someone had taken them. Again, Bryson was very apologetic and even offered for me to go to the flower shop (inside the funeral home) and pick something out and it would be on him. I told him not to worry about it, it wasn't his fault, we had some other flowers at home that we could bring back. The next thing I know, B is sitting in the police officer's chair and she is tying his shoes for him. =)  At the time, I didn't really know much about their conversation because I was busy with Bryson, so I thanked her and we said our good byes.

As we left, I called J to tell him about our special experience. I told him how Officer Messner was there all day and would be there Thursday and Friday as well and that we just had SUCH a special moment. I was amazed at her strength after just losing her best friend and felt like we needed to do something for her, knowing she would be there the next two days. . .that HAS to be an emotional time.  J asked me what I had in mind, I told him I wasn't sure, but she was drinking some kind of a Starbucks drink so maybe that would be a good gift...(they even have a Starbucks cafe in the funeral home). So I planned on us going back the next day to give her a small lil treat as she watched over her best friend.

When I got home, I immediately went to the local newstation websites to read the stories on Officer Libby. Here and here are just a couple. All evening long, I continued to be truly touched by Officer Messner and Officer Libby.

Fast forward to today, B and I went to visit Ava after school. The moment I pulled up, I could tell someone did something special for our lil angel.  =)
Our lil angel had a full bouquet of big, BEAUTIFUL, real, pink gerber daisies. I was truly touched by someone's sweet and kind gesture.  B was sound asleep in the car, so I didnt get him out of the car to show him.  I decided we would just give Officer Messner her gift on Friday instead of waking B up and having him possibly be a lil grouchy.

As we were leaving our lil princess, I looked over to the pond right next to where Ava is and I saw a duck!  We have never seen ducks there before, so I got my phone out to take a picture.  I wanted to be able to show B what he missed out on and just as I went to take the picture, the duck started to fly away. . .

I texted a picture and called J to tell him about Ava's beautiful gift. I told him, I suspected it was Bryson since he insisted the day before. J thought maybe it was him too because Bryson had called him earlier in the day, but J didn't get a chance to answer the phone. Just as soon as B and I got home, I got a call from J telling me to go back to the funeral home he had just talked to Bryson on the phone.  He had a special gift for us on his desk. J wouldn't tell me what the gift was because he wanted us to be surprised.

As we drove back to the funeral home, now that B was awake, I told him he could give Officer Messner her gift when we saw her. As we pulled up, we didn't see her police car. I didn't think too much of it because I thought maybe she just parked in the back somewhere. We walked in the front door and B immediately noticed Officer Messner was not in the chair we saw her sitting in, instead a different police officer was on watch.  I asked him if he knew where Officer Messner was and he said that she had just left, but she would be back tomorrow. I thanked him and then asked the funeral director that was in the lobby for Bryson. A few minutes later, Bryson came bearing a gift.  He gave the gift to B and let him know that the nice police officer he met yesterday left him a special gift. Officer Messner got B a Lego police officer set and wrote him THE SWEETEST message on the box along with a sweet card for Jason and I.  She thanked us for B's sweet words the day before and how he brought joy into her day. =)

She also wanted to make "right" what went wrong for us yesterday with Ava's flowers being taken.  She gave Ava the gift of her big, BEAUTIFUL, pink gerber daises and gave B the special gift of the Police Officer Lego set. = ) Part of the special message she wrote, that I love, "Officer Libby will watch over your sister just like he's watching over us! She's got her own police officer!" 

Afterwards, B wanted me to take him back to see Ava's new, BEAUTIFUL flowers. =)

A few things I learned from their brief lil conversation the day before was that B had told Officer Messner that she was his new best friend. . .since she just lost her best friend.  He also told her that pink gerber daisies were our favorite flower for Ava.  I am so thankful that we were able to meet Officer Messner, of course, I wish it could have been under different circumstances. She helped turn a bad situation, into a positive and memorable experience for us.  =)  After school tomorrow, B and I plan on going back to the funeral home and hope to see Officer Messner to give her our gift.
 
Here is a link to Officer Libby's online obituary if you would like to check it out.  Please join us in saying an extra prayer on Saturday at 2:00 as his family and friends lay him to rest.
 
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Sunday, May 26, 2013

Ava's "Marker" Reveal

If you have followed our blog, you might remember this post, where we talked about how difficult it was to design Ava's marker, well here is the big reveal of our princess' marker. =)

First, this is our view when we get out of the car. Ava's marker is in the back, on the left with the flowers.  We love how you can see the shiny gold from her marker just as soon as you step out of the car. Although it's hard to tell from the picture quality, the shiny gold helps her marker stand out from the rest (one of the reasons it made it extra difficult to order). =)




Adding her picture horizontally was another feature that is not very common.  Most markers, if they even have pictures, are vertical, so this was just one more thing that made her marker more difficult to order.  We love how it turned out though. =)
Through this, J and I have also had to learn how to put flower arrangements together.  As you can see from the flowers above, we're still mastering that new talent. =)


 
Our attempt of "family photos". . . taken in pieces.
 



 
On Saturday as we were out shopping, we decided to stop and visit our princess for a lil bit. As we pulled up, we noticed they had cleared out ALL of the flowers and decorations in Babyland.  This has happened to us before and each time I see it, I get a knot in my stomach. I am just so disgusted that they clear out EVERYTHING! After our visit, we went back to the back of the cemetary, by the dumpsters, where they have storage tubs that they put all of the decorations from Babyland. We dug through the tubs, looking not just for Ava's things, but any of the other items that we could recongize and put back where they belong. As we were leaving, we noticed something new...something that has always been there before, something that we have drove by probably fifty times and never noticed it, but for some reason it caught our eye on Saturday. We noticed a section with lots of tiny markers, probably a fourth the size of Ava's. We were curious, so we drove back around so we could take a look at it.  I noticed the cherub statue and with the tiny markers, I instantly thought it must have been the original Babyland. We got out of the car to take a look, and sure enough it was. We looked around for a little bit and as we did I began to get emotional.   I came across this marker. . .
His name was Martin, his birthday was May 24, 1963 and his angelversary was May 25, 1963 (the day we were visiting). Just like Ava, there were no days in between his birthday and angelversary. This year, Martin would have been fifty years old.  We were amazed how there was a fresh new set of flowers on his marker, not sure if they were there in honor of his birthday, angelversary, Memorial Day or a combination of all, but it made us stop and think about him and who delivered his flowers. Was it his parents, siblings, or another loved one? Then the realization hit me, that this is our life, our future.  Fifty years from now, we will still be visiting our sweet lil princess, Ava, in Babyland.

Happy Memorial Day Weekend!
 
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Saturday, May 25, 2013

Spring Soccer

B's Spring Soccer Season is officially over, so I thought it would be fun to show a collection of some of my favorite pictures from the season.  Well, from the games I remembered to take my camera, that is. . . =)
B and one of his best buddies. I'd love to know what he is whispering to him. =)


This was their last season to play 4 on 4. Next season they will play 7 on 7 with official positions.  Even though they did not have official positions the last few seasons, B did play "sweeper" quite a bit, it's similar to a goalie, he just couldn't use his hands like a goalie. . .so that's why you will see lots of pictures of him in front of the goal by himself. He wanted to make sure everyone knew he wasn't just a "flower picker."  =)








Team Captains =)



And finally getting his "end of season" trophy. B has really started to love soccer, so this summer he plans on attending a soccer camp for the first time. We also signed him up for an indoor soccer league that he is super excited about!
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Thursday, May 23, 2013

What's in a Name...

Many people have asked where we came up with Ava's middle name, Lakelynn so we thought we would just write a post explaining how our baby girl got her name "Ava Lakelynn".

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When we first found out we were having a girl, I suggested to J we name her Ava. Ava was my grandma's name (my dad's mom), her full name was Ava Lee King, but she actually always went by her middle name, Lee instead of Ava. She was a first grade school teacher for 30+ years and passed away from breast cancer when I was in third grade.  Even though I didn't get to spend nearly enough time with her, she has always had a special place in my heart. I've always loved her name Ava, in fact, if B would have been a girl, his name would have been Ava.  J originally thought Ava was a "diva" name when I suggested it and he didn't like it. I didn't pursue it, instead I scoured through baby name websites trying to come up with other ideas.

One day, I was on Pinterest and came across a cute pin of a gorgeous pregnant woman.  It intrigued me, so I clicked on the pin and it took me to her blog. The particular post that was pinned was on her daughter, Laikynn's birth story. When I originally read her daughter's name, I read it as Laiklynn, not Laikynn. As I said it aloud to myself, I thought it was PERFECT for us! "Laik" because we got married at the lake and "lynn" because my middle name was Lynn.  I know, it's kind of cheezy, but I thought it was perfect! I mentioned it to the boys and surprisingly they both LOVED it! J asked me how we would want to spell it, Laiklynn or Lakelynn?? I told him I would go back to the blog and see how they spelled it and thats when I recognized my mistake. Her daughter's name was NOT Laiklynn, it was Laikynn. Oops! At that point we were already set on the name Lakelynn, so we decided since we were "creating a new name", we might as well create our own spelling for it too. Our baby girl was going to be named Lakelynn Abraham.
Lake= because we got married at the lake  
lynn= after my middle name

At the time, we were still looking for a middle name for Lakelynn. In a storage tub of old pregnancy clothes (that J was putting back up in the attic), he found a Baby Name book that my oldest sister had passed down to me. They had used it with my nineteen year old nephew, so it was almost 20 years old!  J started looking through the A names and once he came across "Ava", he said it aloud, and then said "what do you think about Ava?" I said "are you serious?!?" he said "yeah, why??" Then I refreshed his memory that I had already suggested that and he thought it sounded too "divaish". Thankfully, his mind changed and now he loved the name Ava. . .so we came up with Lakelynn Ava Abraham. . .still secretly wanting her first name to be Ava, I switched it around and said it aloud, "how about Ava Lakelynn Abraham?" It had such a cute ring to it, J LOVED it! We shared it with B and originally he was disappointed because he liked the name Lakelynn so much, he wanted that to be her first name, luckily he soon got over it. =)

So there you have it, how our lil girl got her name Ava Lakelynn.  Ava after my grandma and Lakelynn a name I accidently created. =)

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Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Morning Reflections

On our way to school this morning, I had an epiphany.  B was sound asleep and I was left with just my thoughts. I started thinking about what most everyone, especially in my home state, is thinking about right now, the tornado in Moore, OK yesterday and all of the tragic distruction it caused.

Before I get to my epiphany, let me give you a quick back story first. . .
The other day, I posted about Brayden accidently getting in the pool with his iTouch in his pocket. I was very devastated! I'm a very sentimental person and I get attached to things very easily. Sad to say, I was very attached to B's iTouch. I was VERY attached to the memories of it, his pictures, his pictures of Ava, even his apps. While I was on bedrest, I would help B (daily) play a particular game on his iTouch so he could "level up" faster.  I know it sounds SO ridiculous. =)

Yesterday, after we set his iTouch in a bag of rice for almsot 48hours we decided to check on it. I plugged it into my car charger and we got really excited when we saw this. . .
Better than a blank screen, right? We crossed our fingers and couldn't wait to get home to connect it to a computer/iTunes.  After a few minutes of it on the charger, B asked if he could see it so I passed it back to him and he had the obvious/brilliant idea of actually turning it on to see if it worked. Once he did, we got this. . .
B and I immediately cheered! He exclaimed "it's a miracle!! It's a gift from Ava!"  We were so excited!

Unfotunately, once we started using it, we noticed the "home" button doesn't seem to work. Once you are in an app, you have to turn it completely off and then back on to exit out of the app. B played around with it and after a few times of turning it off/on, it decided to stay off.  I hadn't even had a chance to connect it to the computer to back everything up. The iTouch went back into the bag of rice and instant devastation for us both.

Now, back to my epiphany. . .
As I was driving to work, I couldn't stop thinking about the tornado news coverage I had just finished watching before we left the house.  HUNDREDS of families lost EVERYTHING they owned including all of their family special pictures and memories they had.  It's very simple, but in the grand scheme of things, the loss of B's iTouch is NOTHING in comparison to what soo many others have lost the last couple of days.  His iTouch is replaceable (with his own money).  I need to be thankful of all the other pictures we have of Ava and B and not hung up on the ones we don't have from his iTouch. . .there are families that lost EVERYTHING.

Praying for all the victims, first responders, and volunteers! Can't even imagine!
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Sunday, May 19, 2013

B's Indoor Pool Party

Yesterday we had Brayden's 8th Birthday Party at the Allen Natatorium, a local indoor pool.  He had a GREAT time, but boy was it stressful! I usually love planning parties, but yesterday was different. I'm not for sure if it's because I am out of the "party planning groove" or if it's because my anxiety level is now heightened over every little thing. I was a nervous wreck leading up to the big event. . .worrying if we would have enough pizza, cookie cake, drinks, party favors, RSVP's at the last minute, etc. . . you name it, I was worried about it, times a hundred.

Shortly before we left, I couldn't help but think about lil Ava and how this would have been her first time to be introduced to a swimming pool. I went into her room and got out her swimsuit that she most likely would have worn yesterday. I hugged it tight up against my chest and imagined my lil girl wearing her cute lil swimsuit with her chubby lil swim diaper covering her bottom.
Would she have liked the water and all the splashing? As we visited our lil princess today after church, J and I imagined how yesterday would have been, had Ava been with us. J mentioned playing in the water with her, splashing around and B was quick to say "she probably wouldn't have even been IN the water because it's too germy and we wouldn't want her to be around all the germs."  Another example of what a protective (maybe too over protective) Big Brother he would have been. =)We also teased B that Ava more than likely would have been the "hit" of the party and he probably wouldn't have gotten as much attention from the girls if she would have been there. =)

As much worrying as I did, B's party turned out to be a big success and everything went as smoothly as it could.  A special thank you to my parents and good friend, Kristyn for helping us out, we could not have done it without ya'll!!!  Here are a few pictures from all the fun. . .

(not everyone in the pic is apart of our party)
B and some of his buddies floating down the lazy river.
My poor attempt of taking a picture of B going down the slide.
B swimming away from the slide.
One of B's friends jumping off the diving board, B wasn't brave enough to do this yet, maybe next time. =)


** In this space, WAS a picture of J enjoying the swimming fun, but when he reviewed the post he INSISTED I delete his picture.  He now wants to start a CrossFit Membership, effective immediately. =) **

Couple of the girls enjoying the waterfall.

Pizza time!! (and I forgot to take a group pic, so this is the closest thing, minus a few kids over on the side.) 


J passing out 2nds and 3rds of pizza...believe it or not, we went through 8 boxes of Papa Johns Large pizzas with NO leftovers!!



At home unwrapping presents. =)

B with his new stash of Nerf Guns, 
he is so impressed that it is taller than him. =)

and that's a bag of rice. . .inside that bag of rice is B's iTouch =( 
We're HOPING and crossing our fingers, the rice will be able to absorb the moisture and make it work again.

Apparently he was SO excited to get his party started, he completely forgot to take his iTouch out of his pocket before he got in the pool.  Why in the world he would have EVER put his iTouch in his SWIMMING SUIT Pocket is BEYOND me. When he originally brought it to me, my heart immediately sunk. Not because it was an expensive item that was just ruined, for me, I could careless how much it cost. I knew, at that moment,  that we would not be able to recover anything that was on his iTouch. . . in an instant, poor slip of judgement on B's part, everything on it was gone. . . pictures, pictures of Ava (I think I had texted myself all of them) self portraits B had took, memories of him facetiming me, texting me, calling me. . . all of that was gone, in an instant.  I can't help but think/wonder why, everything good that happens to us now, seems to always have a "but" or "catch to it."  The party was wonderful, we all had a great time, but the happiness was dampened by the loss of B's iTouch and the irreplaceable memories on it.

Although B had an amazing time, planning a party of this size was a bit much for us! On our way to the party, we teased B that next year he will have to choose between a big item present or a friend party. I'm already highly encouraging him to choose a big item present like last year. =)

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